I was going to write broadly about marriage this week given that Ash and I are celebrating 16 years today, but then I got this question and I wanted to reply to it instead in hopes of being helpful, but also as a sort of meditation on what I’ve learned after 16 years of marriage.
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Look, you get ALL kinds of advice before getting married.
“Don’t let the sun…